Angry Colleagues – Finger On The Trigger

150 150 Kamal Karanth

It was one of those monsoons and I was planning my yearly monsoon break to enjoy the greenery in Karnataka. As per my holiday routines, I switched off my Hand-Phone and was getting into the groove, call it premonition’, I felt like switching on my cell in the afternoon. Just to reinforce my instinct, there were two missed calls from my boss and a message on the reason. Last four years, I have never got such SOS calls especially when I am on holiday. We had to deliver a project on time and we had missed to take off and also communicate it rightfully. My Boss was sweating some bullets from his stake holders and had called me for clarification. I wanted the earth to open up and swallow me as this issue was being mismanaged for the ‘N’th time.

I was angry with myself as I had to log in to get back to work. The rage in me wanted to send nasty SMSes to ten of my team members, whom I believe had caused my weekend plans go awry. I sent one ‘nice’ SMS to one of my colleagues, shouted at my 4 year old for nothing and hit the gym to calm me down. Post Gym & amp; shower I went to the temple and came home.

Triggers

I now know why there are so many outbursts at workplaces via email, phone or in person. All offices do not have gyms or are next to places of worship. I mean there aren’t enough means to calm us down in a competitive world. The triggers take over us most of the times and we react. I am sure after angrily responding to an email you must have felt, you were better off not pressing the send button. I have felt many times that I have overreacted and used harsh words to express myself.

So what makes us angry at the workplace? Isn’t it just a job and aren’t we all employees of an organisation. Aren’t we all bound by the employer framework as soon as we step into our offices? Why can’t we get it into our head that our employers pay our salaries and there can be measured responses and not reactions? Why do we all react? In my view, some react to people whom they have baggages with and many on feeling challenged, marginalized or not given due credit. I react to all of them. I believe some of us are impulsive to any situation and that can be quite hazardous in the workplace.

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/anger-management.htm/

Angry Colleagues

We were in the middle of an account review with a large IT Customer and the customer got angry and criticized the service levels. My account manager who had worked really hard to make this our top account got emotional. He got up with tears in his eyes and said” I can’t take this anymore” and walked out. The client looked at me in disbelief. I had not attended any training programs to manage this situation. I was shell shocked and continued to talk to the customer as though nothing had happened. After 30 plus minutes my colleague came back and apologized. But then he had already put the reputation of the organisation under duress.

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